The best thing we could have done for our relationship was put Jesus first, Jackson's second and everything else lines up! We decided to get married in 1998 but due to some conflict with the relationship at the time it did not happen. But God did not give up on what he meant for us to be to one another. So in November of 1999 we took the leap and became husband and wife. Mind you we only had a idea of what being married meant lol. For me I had the model of a mother and father that were friends as well as soul mates and to this day my father has yet to remarry once my mother passed away. And when he's asked why he never remarried he says "no one can compare to what I had." That has truly stuck with me as I continue to grow and live with my best friend of over 20 years. We may not always agree with one another however we always love each other beyond the faults.
When we had our baby girl Chloe' in 2002, we decided we needed a change because Miami was not yielding any change in our lives as individuals and certainly would have been destruction to what we were trying to build in marriage. We decided to put roots down in Georgia and to this day I thank God that we were obedient and left Miami. It allowed us to grow as a couple and build and put roots that will grow and yield great return. You may say what does that mean? Well for Mr. Jackson it meant him truly surrendering everything to God and allowing him to lead his family to Christ. He decided to give his life to God and that made all the difference in our lives. He surrendered first and I followed and now we are seeing the blessing of God on our kids' lives as well as ours. We set out to be the example for our generation that divorce was not an option, to break generational curses, and to guide our children to what God has destined for their lives.
As I said earlier, I lived in a two parent home. Not to say that it was perfect but I saw real time what it was like to be husband and wife, the good, bad and indifferent. They always worked it out and came together to keep pushing for a common goal of keeping their family together. Now on the other hand, my hubby did not see what it meant to be married because he lived in a home with his great grandmother, grandmother, and aunts and uncles. For him our marriage took on a whole different aspect for him. He said he wanted to be a present father in every aspect of his kids lives and to this day I would not trade anything about him because there is nothing that he would not do for his FAMILY! It just goes to show that it's not about where or what you came from but more about what you do to make that change a positive one. For us I brought to our marriage that I was going to be a women that stood by my man no matter what and he brought that he was in this for the long haul. However the individual things we brought to the table would not be enough to sustain us alone so we needed to get connected to the vine. And once we did that I tell you it's certainly the best thing that could have ever happened to us! We love God and he has truly showed us how to love each other and our kids.
We are about to embark of grandparenthood and can't be more elated to experience it and know that because of our diligence with teaching our children what it means to live a life sold-out for God our son has made us proud. At the age of 20 he shared with us that he planned to ask his girlfriend to be his wife and of course as parents we asked are you sure, are you ready, do you know what it means to be a husband etc. And of course he said yes to all of our questions so at that point we knew that we had made a lasting impression on him to know that if you wanted to be with her, marriage was the best option because that is what we modeled and spoke of constantly. We never kept the truth from our children about how our relationship started but we always encouraged them to do it right and see the blessings of God on their lives. So on September of 2015 they said I do at the courthouse and later followed up with a formal wedding in May, 2015. I said all of this to say that generational curses are real, however they can be broken if you seek God, believe, and pray that those things are dead. That's exactly what we did together as husband and wife. I prayed that my children would not have to experience parenthood as singles, but enjoy the experience with the person that God has destined for them to share a lifetime with.
And in closing if I can leave you with anything at all it would be surrender to God and he will make all the difference in every aspect of your life as long as you open up every area. To answer the question, God is why we have been together for 20 plus years and knowing that no matter what we will always ask what would Jesus do in every situation. Be slow to angry, quick to forgive, and always willing to admit when you're wrong. One of the sweetest things that I have heard my girls say after a conference they attended for youth was that they were writing a list of what they required in a husband and that they pray about it and can check off things once that person enters their lives. At the age of 16 and 13 that is so inspiring to hear from this generation that a lot have written off but for me, I believe that these young people will be world changers with the help of God, parents, friends, relatives, and others that directly influence a young person today. Let's all do our parts and step up and be the best YOU that you can be and always remember that you always have eyes on you even when you can't see them.
Kiss every chance you get. Hug him like you mean it! Having a goal helps us make choices that free us. What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
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