When preparing for the wedding it's very easy to get caught up on the idea of being married. However, you have to prepare for the marriage way before you are asked or you're thinking about proposing for the men. Men are suppose to be the head of the home however, you have to have a vision of what you were created to do before you can think about bringing a wife into the equation. Your wife is to be your helpmate so with that being said if you don't have anything for her to help with she can't fulfill her part of being your helpmate. And sometimes if you don't have a vision she will go and create her own.
So before you think about proposing be sure to have your vision in place and working toward it so that when you get your helpmate she is able to catch the vision and propel it to all it is intended to be. Lead your household with your vision and purpose so that your wife can follow.
There are a few other things to consider when preparing for marriage:
1. Money
Money is one of the biggest obstacles that most marriages face and sometimes lose the battle. So it's best to discuss money from the very beginning and get a view of how each handles money. That allows you to make adjustments if necessary and determine who will handle the funds the best to ensure you all are working together.
2. Religion
God is to be the third cord in your marriage so it is certainly important to be on the same accord when it comes to your beliefs. This is certainly key to ensuring that you marriage will sustain the storms when they come. You will both share your FAITH and know that God will see you through it all.
3. Kids
Do you plan to have kids, do you want kids? Be honest with one another about your desires as it relates to having kids. It's not fair to enter into a marriage with false hopes if you are not honest. Who will be the primary caregiver for the children from the beginning such as will the wife be a stay at home mom or maybe dad wants to be a stay at home dad. Whatever you desire share it with one another so that you have a plan before the time comes and to ensure you're both in agreement.
4. Discipline
Talk about how you all will deal with discipline as it relates to the children that you all plan to have. Don't leave anything to assumption be sure to have a clear plan of how discipline will be handled from the start.
5. Career
Will you both work and help support the family? Will one go back to school to increase earning potential or maybe go after your passion/purpose? This is certainly a big part of creating balance within the home. You never want to feel unhappy in your career and afraid to go after what you truly desire so honesty and support is key as it relates to career.
6. Realistic expectations
Don't look at celebrities and set your expectations by their standards because you don't see their lives daily. When I say realistic expectations I mean simple things as will we have date night once a week, once every two weeks or once a month. Will the husband take out the garbage, mow the lawn, wash the cars etc. Those are the realistic expectations I'm referring to and of course there are many more but open up the lines of communication and be honest about what you want and be willing to compromise if it's not a deal breaker for you.
7. Schools
Will your kids go to public or private school or maybe you want to home school them? These are all things certainly worthy of discussion and agreement.
8. Cooking
If you don't know how to cook are you willing to learn or do you want someone that knows how to cook and willing to do the majority of cooking? Will you all eat out a lot or maybe if neither of you know how to cook you can practice and learn together. Make it fun request that everyone that comes to your wedding bring you a recipe so you will have your very own cookbook from your loved ones and more than likely have some of your favorite foods from your loved ones.
9. Home
It is certainly important to determine where you will live once you say I do. We you rent a place, buy a home or maybe one will move into the other's home? Don't skip on this discussion or leave it to chance.
Ultimately you want to make sure when hard times come you are compatible with each other so you're able to love each other through. Be friends with one another from the start I promise it will help you when times get hard so that you can laugh and love through the years. You won't always like your spouse but you should always love them and that will give you great joy over the years. Strive to make your spouses life easier each day by putting them first and that way you both will get what you need and want. Marriage is a union that you must enter with clear expectations to create a lifetime of happiness. The goal is always to become one so the sooner you replace mine, I and me with our and us that's key in creating partnership.
Kiss every chance you get. Hug like you mean it! Having a goal helps us make choices that free us. What you do EVERYDAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
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